5 Qualities Your Husband Finds Irresistible Building on these five traits will ensure you have a healthy and happy husband at home. BY BOB GRANT
These five, simple qualities will make your husband happy until the end of time.
“ There’s nothing sexier to a man than a woman who truly believes in him. In fact, research shows that if you believe in a man’s dreams, he’ll naturally be more attracted to you.”
If you asked 100 men what they look for in a woman, you may get 100 different answers. Some men like blondes. Some like brunettes. Some like tall, willowy women. Others like short ladies. Yet if you ask a man that’s married what he finds important in his wife, an important trend emerges.
Being in a marriage with a woman who's beautiful doesn't mean much to a man if his wife is rude, selfish or demanding. Often, women forget that men are attracted to who they are and not just what they look like. Good looks may have caught his attention, but who you are on the inside is what will make or break the relationship in the end.
Here are five qualities that inspire a man to stay devoted:
If there’s one trait your husband will value more than anything else in you, it’s honesty. That may seem awfully boring, but it’s actually huge. Honesty means more to a man than most women realize. Look at it this way: From a guy’s perspective, he knew the day you got married you would ultimately have a tremendous amount of power over him. So likewise, if he’s going to give you that sort of power, he absolutely must be able to trust you.
As a man, trust is his most valuable gift he can give you (at least in his mind). If you are dishonest, it makes him question whether he can confide in and depend on you. Telling the truth may sometimes be uncomfortable and, at other times, may be hard, but showing your man that he can trust you to be honest with him at all times will do wonders for your marriage.
We’ve all heard the proverb, "Patience is a virtue." Patience is key to a lasting relationship. But what exactly does it mean to be patient, anyway?
Sometimes, women think of patience in terms of being tolerant. That's not what being patient means. Patience means thinking before you speak or act. For example, if you and your husband get into a disagreement, stop and ask yourself this question, "Is this worth fighting about?" If it is, then bring it to his attention immediately. If it’s not, be patient with him, hold your tongue, and move on. The little things are worth letting go.
There are definite occasions when you should not tolerate his behavior. If he’s unfaithful, abusive, or constantly rude or disrespectful, don’t tolerate it from him. This isn’t the time to be patient and accept it. If it is worth confronting him about, tell him that you want him to change what he’s doing. Give specific examples. If he doesn’t change and the issue is vitally important to you, consider seeking out a professional to help. Patience is wonderful when it comes to small things. Let them fly. Yet when it comes to big, harmful things like infidelity, tolerance does much more harm than good. A good man will respect the woman who knows the difference.
Men can’t resist a woman who is truly kindhearted. This means so much more than simply being nice to a man. Men measure kindness by how you act when he’s done something wrong and he’s genuinely sorry. For example, say he missed an important event. He forgot it and is genuinely sorry. Do you forgive him and move on or do you hold a grudge and purposefully "miss" an event that is important to him?
When your husband is feeling vulnerable, do you stick it to him or are you gracious? It is possible to accept his apology while conveying how his action hurt you while still forgiving him and moving on. If he’s feeling vulnerable and you don’t take advantage of it, he’ll be incredibly attracted to you. Men want a woman who is genuinely kind and will stick by his side through thin and thick, good and bad. If you can be that woman for him, your marriage will last a lifetime.
Believe in Him
There’s nothing sexier to a man than a woman who truly believes in him. In fact, research shows that if you believe in a man’s dreams, he’ll naturally be more attracted to you. What does this mean? You don’t have to show a burning passion for each of his goals and hobbies in life. You don’t have to take up an interest in Fantasy Football or golf tournaments. However, if you tell him that you believe he can accomplish anything his heart desires, you’ll turn him on in magical ways.
For example, say your husband wants to start his own company someday. It may sound a bit crazy to you, but if that’s his passion, encourage him to do it. When you believe in him, the dream feels real to him. It feels attainable. He wants you to believe in him, and if you do he’ll be able to do miraculous things.
Sometimes a bit of motivation and encouragement from you is all he needs to get the ball rolling and shoot for the stars. If you truly pay attention to him and listen to his hopes and dreams and then tell him you have faith he can accomplish those goals without telling him how to do it, you’ll create a deep emotional bond and build a strong, lasting marriage.
Expensive: You Set Your Own Value
Here's a secret that most women forget—men like expensive things. What's more, men actually want you to view yourself as a woman of exceptional value. Some women mistakenly believe this means they are to act in a condescending and aloof manner.
That's not what men consider valuable. Women who know they are valuable are above all, happy with themselves. Developing this quality can be as simple as learning a new habit.
If you feel you're lacking any of these qualities the good news is you can obtain each of them. The secret is to understand a principle that can transform your life and remember that what you do is more important than what you feel.
Here's what it means. If you'll begin practicing the trait you want to acquire—initially it may feel strange. Yet, if you'll continue practicing these behaviors—whether good or bad—you'll soon notice a difference in yourself that your husband will notice as well. Given enough time, these new qualities will become a part of you and your spouse will find himself wanting to be around you more often.