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Before you reject your wife's metro man request, consider the perks.
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You’re sitting around one night, watching the game and your wife is reading one of her girly magazines. You know the ones; “How to Change Him in Five Days,” or “Twenty Tips to Satisfy Your Man.” She leans over and says, “Honey, what do you say we shave your chest and dress you like a sophisticated gay man.” You wipe the buffalo wing sauce from your cheek and then sit there, wondering if the publishers of these magazines are out to get you.
At first glance, I can understand why you might be put off by your wife’s request of turning you into a “metrosexual”—it may seem that she’s telling you she isn’t pleased with who you are anymore. But since I always like to give someone the benefit of the doubt, I think there’s a lot of positive spin that can be put on her request.
The urban dictionary offers, among others, these definitions:
- A metro often appreciates the finer things in life and enjoys making himself look good.
- An American metrosexual is like your average European male. In France or Italy, men can be manly and work on cars and know about art and fashion at the same time. They don't need some special name for the less "masculine" side; men who dabble in vanity or in lofty romantic concerns seem less like men when in fact, they are probably better lovers to women than their traditional counterpart.
If, however, you’re not quite comfortable doing the whole metro schtick, do the aspects of it with which you are comfortable—try a striped button-down shirt or put a little gel in your hair.
Of course, as a relationships specialist, I can’t miss out on an opportunity to suggest that you might ask your wife why she’s made this request. Openings for communication and better understanding of one another comes in all shapes and sizes—even as a hairless metrosexual!
Karen Sherman, Ph.D., (www.drkarensherman.com) is a practicing psychologist in relationships and lifestyle issues for over 20 years. She offers teleseminars and is co-author of Marriage Magic! Find It! Make It Last.
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