Sex Q&A: Is It Safe To Have Sex In The Ocean? The fantasy of having sex in the water is tantalizing, but is it safe? Dr. Trina gives her advice on what to expect from the beach to the hotel pool. BY DR. TRINA READ
If you're going to get frisky in the ocean there are a few tips to make things more comfortable.
“ Sex in the ocean gives a feeling of weightlessness, which makes all of those awkward standing sex positions possible.”
Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.
My husband and I are planning a warm vacation and have fantasized about sex in the ocean. He’s heard it’s not safe so what are our options?
The key to fantastic sex in the water is to make sure you have enough lubrication, as penetration may be more difficult when water washes away your natural lubrication.
To make sex more comfortable insert a small amount of silicone-based lubricant into your vagina beforehand.
Sex at the beach. Sex in the ocean gives a feeling of weightlessness, which makes all of those awkward standing sex positions possible. Yet if the water is cold, your husband's penis may shrink and he may experience a slower sexual response.
Sex in the hotel pool. If you’re planning a midnight rendezvous in the hotel pool, make sure there are no security cameras. Be warned some chemicals such as chlorine in public pools or hot tubs may irritate the delicate mucosal tissue of your genitals much as it irritates the mucosal tissue of your eyes.
Great Sex Tip: If you have an orgasm in the water, vaginal contractions that accompany it could create a suction effect and draw water inside of you. If that water is treated with chemicals it could irritate your vagina.
I think my husband is cheating on me. When is it appropriate to snoop through his phone or e-mail?
A recent study showed that 10 percent of people dating and 3 percent of married people found something incriminating when they went snooping in e-mails and on cell phones. That’s pretty low.
So here’s the moral high-horse answer: You should trust your partner enough not to check their stuff. Your relationship should be transparent enough that you both have your e-mails open and phones available for each other to check any time.
Here’s the human answer: Insecurity can make people do some crazy stuff—we’ve all been there. However, when you go looking be prepared to find things you don’t want to see and that make you wish you never had.
Here’s the moderate in between answer: Healthy relationships do not have secrets. If there are secrets, there is usually a reason why. And the reason you’re keeping secrets from each other are what needs to be worked on if the relationship is to succeed.
So before you go looking, first ask yourself a few questions:
* Is this based on something you saw or just a feeling? * Are you feeling insecure? * If and when you do find something incriminating, what will happen to your relationship? * Will checking periodically become a habit?
Great Sex Tip: Snooping will breed your own personal hell of jealousy, insecurity, and doubt. Is that who you want to be in this relationship?
Dr. Trina Read is the founder of VivaXO.com; a leading relationship and sexual health expert and educator; and is a best selling author, media expert, syndicated blogger, international speaker, magazine columnist, and spokeswoman. Trina has just launched Sensual Tastes Events, an interactive workshop blending the pleasures of food and sex education. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook.