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Fighting Fair: The Rules of Engagement for Love and War
4 rules to follow to work through marital conflicts in the best possible way.
On your wedding day, you probably dreamed of sun-filled years of happiness, laughter and sheer delight. However, conflict in marriage happens, so when the metaphorical "boxing gloves" come on and you’re fighting with your spouse it's important to keep it clean.
Fighting fair is about respecting your spouse, even in moments of disagreement. Arguments are not justifications to be mean, say whatever you want or drudge up the past with your spouse. Fighting fair is about getting your point across, but doing it in a way that’s not hurtful. Here are four steps to help you fight fair and resolve conflict effectively:
Fighting fair is about respecting your spouse, even in moments of disagreement. Arguments are not justifications to be mean, say whatever you want or drudge up the past with your spouse. Fighting fair is about getting your point across, but doing it in a way that’s not hurtful. Here are four steps to help you fight fair and resolve conflict effectively:
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