Sexting has gotten a bad rap in the media lately for being harmful to teenagers, but what about adults in consenting, long-term relationships like marriage? Sexting, or sending sexually suggestive texts or phone pictures, is a playful way to heat things up in a marriage. In fact, digital foreplay is not only a turn on; it can also improve intimacy.

To help you get more textually active, we asked textperts Debra Goldstein and Olivia Baniuszewicz, authors of the new book