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Are You Ready to Have Kids?
Is anyone ever really ready? Regardless, here are the big things to consider.


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This is likely the biggest decision a couple can make and there are some important things to consider.


As trivial as this seems, not all couples can agree on whether or not they want to be parents.”
Perhaps you and your husband have been married for a little over a year. You both want children but want to know when is the best time for us to start trying? Is there ever really a best time? Most of your friends already have children, and youíre starting to feel as if you should get started a little sooner than later. That, and both of your parents keep not-so-subtly hinting that they are ready to be grandparents. But are you ready to have kids?

This is a question that crosses the minds of lots of young couples. You are already ahead of the curve on this topic; i.e., you both know that you want children! As trivial as this seems, not all couples can agree on whether or not they want to be parents. I know, you probably are thinking, "why would you marry someone that didnít have the same feelings about children as you do?" Trust me. It happens!

Since you both know that you eventually want to have children, the next step is, when? While I know lots of folks will tell you there never truly is a "best" or "good" time to have children, what if I told you there was? The best time to have children is when you are both ready! While this seems overly simplified, the fact of the matter is that you both may not arrive at this milestone decision simultaneously.

Not knowing the dynamics of your relationship; i.e., how long you all have known one another prior to getting married, etc., my response to this question is certainly not a one size fits all. Having said such, I will give you some general things to consider in determining whether or not youíre truly ready to be parents.

Is your relationship solid? Do you really know each other? If not, use the first few years of marriage to get to know and enjoy each other. Once baby arrives, you wonít get this time back.

Are you financially ready and able to provide for a child? As wonderful as parenting is, itís expensive! Between household expenses, school, childcare, medical bills, etc., it certainly can add up. Youíll want to ensure you are prepared to take on the additional financial responsibility.

Are you mentally and emotionally prepared to share your life/world with another human being who will be completely, and unconditionally dependent on you? If the answer is no, itís ok to admit it. Some folks arenít quite ready for this kind of commitment.

Are you physically ready to be parents? This is where I make my plug for preconception counseling. This is the visit that women have with their obgynís to ensure they are at their bestóhealth wiseóto have a happy, healthy, pregnancy. If there are things that need to be better controlled, such as high blood pressure, diabetes, weight, etc., these things will be addressed at this visit. This is also an opportunity to consider any family history that may impact a future pregnancy.

Parenting is a wonderful thing! An experience like no other. It changes you; makes you grow up. For most, having children is often described as the greatest thing that has ever happened to them. And while all of these things may be true, and certainly are true for most, make sure you are sure. Once you have children, you canít give them back.

Wife, mother, Midwesterner, and award-winning OB/GYN, Dr. Angela is equal parts best girlfriend and bold professional, supporting womenís health with innovative approaches to care and heavy doses of humor. Dr. Angela has done more than launch a successful practice, she has defined herself as a voice for a new generation of womanhood, established her ASK DR. ANGELA brand committed to authenticity, and built a community rooted in trust, candor, and compassion. You can connect with her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and on her website: askdrangela.com


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