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Py Kim Conant
Author of "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man" is anything but submissive.

Py Kim Conant
Py Kim Conant

Spouse: Richard Conant, 63
Married: 7 years
Kids: 0
Notable: Come October 28th, Py, 43, will definitely raise eyebrows, skirts and menís libidos with her decidedly un-PC book, Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man (pre-orders available on and Culling the practices of the Japanese geisha and the Korean equivalent, kisaeng, Korea-born Py attempts to teach American women the ways of the alluring Asian Geisha. Py's tips and suggestions will surely spark some lively conversation between you and your spouse.

[1] Some may perceive the contents of your book as training women to be submissive to men. Arenít you reinforcing Asian female stereotypes? Itís only submissive in that youíre giving into the reality that men are visual animals with fragile egos. If you want to keep a relationship with a man, you have to give him what he wants. You have to go with the flow. Women need to only accept the stereotypes that are helpful or useful. If Asian women are perceived as nice, whatís wrong with that? Men approach you easily because of the stereotype. But the notion that Asian women are submissive, passive and materialistic, we just reject that.

[2] Why is it so important for married women to place their ďbeauty and sexy femininityĒ a continuing priority in their relationship? Men donít want their women to change. They want their women to be the same as when they first got married. They want beauty, sexy femininity and a hot sexy relationship to keep the marriage invigorated. If your husband wants and desires you, thatís good. If youíre fat and gain weight, itís bad.

[3] Isnít it hard enough to live up to this ideal of perfection with supermodels and the genetically blessed? You say we should all be at our perfect weight yet youíre largely against plastic surgery. I emphasize in my book to look classy and natural. Plastic is not a natural look. We as women want to keep the best weight, thatís when youíre comfortable with your weight and proud of yourself. When you gain weight you get depressed and it affects your marriage. So sex is not good because you feel big and donít want to take off the clothes and have sex anymore.

Itís a lie when men say they donít care if the woman gains 50 pounds; we donít want to hear the truth. When we ask if our butt looks big, we already know that it is, we just want to hear our husbands say no! Men donít want to get in trouble by telling the truth.

[4] Why should women always credit their man for their orgasms, even when a vibratorís in play? Men want to feel great, itís ego boosting to do so. He wants to take the credit, even if you got the orgasm with the vibrator. He needs to feel masculine and regard the vibrator as a friend and not an enemy.

[5] You say women should be enthusiastically available to their man whenever he wants sex, but arenít we allowed to not feel in the mood? Weíre not sex machines, thereís no button they can press to instantly make us ready. And there will be many times where we donít want to do it, but thereís a way to talk to him. Say ďIíd love to have sex with you,Ē but then say whatís holding you back, like "I have a migraine," or whatever, but be truthful. Then tell him, ďCan we have sex later,Ē or set a date in the near future. Finish by asking him if thatís okay. That way itís his decision, not your decision and he doesnít feel like heís being pushed away by you. He will say "yes." Then since he waited for you, give him an extra treat like wearing a new thong pantyócrotchless, silkyósomething thatís an incredible treat and is visual.

[6] The vast majority of your book covers what women should do in attracting, pleasing and keeping a man. What are a few things men should be doing for women? A husband should appreciate what their women can do for them, instead of taking them for granted. A woman should be treated like a queen, since sheís treating him like a king. Because we women need to hear it, tell her you love her and sheís beautiful, all the time. Tell her sheís the nicest woman in the world. You have to be sincere. You have to be totally, physically and emotionally faithful to your wife and not fucking around with other women. He has to please her sexually, enthusiastically and show her sheís special. Be nice to her and always listen to your wifeómaking her happy is a big part. And always keep your word.

[7] Those are some good tips for men, why donít you focus on that equally? Maybe my second book will be what a man can do for a woman! But husbands should read this book too. Youíll see how to make a woman ejaculate and how to be sexually involved.

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