“ Even though small fibs seem harmless, these little white lies can undermine a sense of trust in your marriage.”
The Signs of Deception
If you still have your suspicions that your husband is lying note the common signs of deception so you can decide for yourself if he’s being honest. "Witnessing one sign that he’s lying should be enough to set off your radar," Crum says. "More than one is usually great evidence that he’s deceiving you." Just remember to weigh these lying behaviors against his WIN. If your husband typically shifts in his chair or clears his throat before answering questions, that means it’s normal for him—not that he’s deceiving you. If not, these signals should throw up a red flag:
Stalling for time: "Can we talk about this later?" or repeating the question.
Defensiveness: "I don’t have to answer that."
Excuses: "I would never do that." Or, "I would never jeopardize our relationship."
Searching for specifics: "What’s your point?" Or, "What are you trying to figure out?"
What ifs: "What if I said yes?"
Amnesia: "Not that I can remember." Or, "To the best of my knowledge..."
Details: Truthful men tell you the truth and answer your question, not tell you the whole story behind the truth; deceptive men load up their response with more details than are necessary to answer your question.
Guilt twists: "Do you really think I would do that?" Or, "I thought you trusted me."
Sounds: Clearing his throat, coughing, voice change.
Qualifiers: "To be perfectly honest..." Or, "To tell you the truth..."
Fidgeting: Leg movements, shifting, tapping his fingers
Gesturing: Such as rubbing or wringing hands
Adjusting: Messing with his watch, glasses or jewelry
Biting: Or inspecting his nails
Abnormal eye contact
Cleaning up his surroundings: Particularly when he's not usually a cleaner
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