Sex Q&A: What Position Will Make Her Purr? A wife wants to learn a new sex position that will get her aroused. Dr. Trina Read teaches her the CAT. BY DR. TRINA READ
The smallest adjust in your position can make all the difference in arousal.
“ Research shows approximately 70% of women ejaculate regularly, however because the amount is often so small it is not noticed.”
Sex and relationship expert, Dr. Trina Read, is ready to answer your questions.
Are there any sex positions that can help me be more aroused during intercourse?
There is a great position called the Coital Alignment Technique (CAT). It provides a woman with both internal and external stimulation, as well as stimulates the man’s prostatic nerves.
The CAT is a basic modification of the missionary position that involves the man riding up on a woman’s pelvis so they can rock and rub her externally against his pelvic bone.
Here’s how to do it:
1. The woman lies on her back and the man lies on top.
2. He then shifts his body upwards along hers (he can rest his hands/arms beside her head) so that the base of his pelvic bone presses firmly against her pelvic bone.
3. The woman presses her pelvis upwards and wraps her feet around his calves.
4. Play with synchronized rocking and rubbing movements as opposed to in-and-out thrusting.
5. Some women find intensified pleasure in squeezing their legs together to create greater friction and tension.
Sound technical? It’s really quite simple. Once you’ve get the hang of this you can modify the CAT into a range of other on-your-side positions.
Great Sex Tip: If the CAT doesn’t work for you, please don’t give up finding pleasure during intercourse. No singular approach works for every woman, so keep experimenting and eventually you will find your triggers.
Ten years ago I regularly had G-spot orgasms and now I can’t. Is it something psychological? I would really love to get them back. Any suggestions?
I wonder if a partner said anything negative to you in reference to the most natural response of ejaculation.
You see when some women have a G-spot orgasm, their ejaculation seems like they are urinating; and some men accuse women of "peeing" on them. Both of which have caused many women to stop or interrupt the sensations that can lead to having this type of orgasm.
Here are the facts: Your ejaculate isn’t urine. It is fluid from the paraurethral glands which internally surround a woman’s urethra.
Given that you already have had a G-spot orgasm, it is most likely you still can given the right style and intensity of stimulation. Meaning, you have already established the nerve response pathway that your body recognizes.
Your best bet is to think back to when you were able to easily do this. Only you know what was done to achieve the orgasm, and you need to repeat that experience.
Great Sex Tip: Not all women can have a G-spot orgasm. Some women have it happen regularly, others occasionally and still for others never—and there still is little scientific understanding as to why.
Dr. Trina Read is the founder of VivaXO.com; a leading relationship and sexual health expert and educator; and is a best selling author, media expert, syndicated blogger, international speaker, magazine columnist, and spokeswoman. Trina has just launched Sensual Tastes Events, an interactive workshop blending the pleasures of food and sex education. Follow her on Twitter and Facebook.